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# Establish limits and boundaries, such as curfews, study hours, behavior at parties, and expectations for special occasions.
# Define the consequences of unacceptable behavior, make sure your preteen understands the consequences and then stick to them.
# Recognize that some limits are negotiable and others are not.
# Guide your preteen toward choices that will keep him or her safe. While preteens may fight with parents about some decisions, they usually realize that the limits placed on them are a sign of love, rather than control.
# Monitor your preteen's behavior-what he or she says and does, where he or she goes and with whom, and when to expect him or her home.
# Redefine your limits of control over your preteen's life as he or she starts to think and act more mature. Otherwise you risk some major problems in your relationship.
# Monitor your own behavior-what you say, what you do, and what you believe. Your behavior will make a huge difference in the choices your preteen makes.
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